It should be yours, too

Dear future hubster,

during years of struggling with all these candidates who ultimately turn out to be, well, not you, I have learned many things, about life, love, and myself. 

Obvious it seems, this one is sometimes rather hard to go by: I want to be the person you love, but at the same time I need to remain the person I love. This is my baseline for all agreements and negotiations we may have.

And of those, we will have many.